07 April 2012
And so it begins...
Our hospital did not do what I would call a wonderful job with us. If I can get one nurse to help one mom to not have as many regrets as we do - I will be the happiest woman alive.
We shall see how this goes. Feel free to tag along.
Oh - and yes - there still will be Oz references. :o) At least here. :o)
27 May 2011
Still kicking....
Been trying to get an idea of where I should be and what I should be doing. Still haven't figured it out. Not by a long shot.
Just turned 38 a few weeks ago. With it came the conclusion that Blue Bird would be an only child here on this Earth. The Wizard had been very clear that he could not go through another pregnancy. Too afraid to lose me - to afraid to say good-bye to another little one. So - with my increase in years came my acceptance of no more kids. Heart broke a little - but I did start to be okay with it - what choice did I have?
The Wizard has been working out of state for the past four weeks. Came home for a day - and dropped the bomb - he wants another little one. Out of the blue. No lead up to the conversation - just boom - "I want Blue Bird to have a little sister or brother". Needless to say - I had no idea how to respond. So - he's left back out after being home about 24 hours (gone for another 4 to 6 weeks) - and I am sitting here trying to figure out where I go with this information.
Never thought I would hesitate. I'm at a loss.
15 September 2010
Still here....
anger
self blame
frustration
trapped
out of control
waiting for the next axe to fall
I have been a rain cloud. I can't even say one is following me around - I AM THE CLOUD. And I hate it. I know - I am taking steps to try to get out of the place I am.... I have started seeing a counselor. Our plan of action - to teach me to control my emotions and my anger.... and hope that it in turn helps with all the other mess that is my brain and heart.
Well - I will try to keep you posted on my progress. Really hoping I can shake this. I really don't want Blue Bird growing up - thinking mom is off her rocker.
Gotta quit looking over my shoulder - seeing where that next tornado is....
25 August 2010
As Fall comes near....
26 July 2010
Time....
After Bumble Bee went away - I found a lot of peace and friendship at a pregnancy/parenting website with other moms to angels. My day revolved around touching base with everyone and helping new moms and just not being "abnormal".... But lately I find myself typing a response to a new mom's broken heart..... and then instantly erasing it..... I feel like a broken record and that my words can't make a difference.
What can I say? Words can't fix what's wrong. God - if they could - I wouldn't be the mess I am. I have two little boys in this house - one asleep in a crib - and one in an urn on a shelf. How does that make any sense? How is that right?
Sorry..... feels like tornado weather here.....
30 May 2010
Surrender....
30 April 2010
Unexpected Gift
I am not a good one with dates. Never have been - never will. I also did not think to make a big deal about my pregnancy - why concentrate on everything? It's not like it would make a difference once the baby gets here....... right? But after losing Bumble Bee - I scrambled to hold on to ANYTHING that was associated with him. Hell - if I would have known - I would have saved EVERYTHING about my pregnancy.... all the way down to the receipt from the pedicure I had two weeks before his birth. Yeah - finding anything associated with the DB becomes VERY important.
So - here's the gift I got this week. I had been very sick Tuesday and Wednesday - and finally decided to drag my butt to Urgent Care. They asked when was the last time I visited them - and I remembered - it was when I thought I had the stomach flu. That flu bug turned out to be me - pregnant with Bumble Bee. The receptionist must have thought I was nuts - because I asked her - for a pen - and the date that I had been there.....
March 7th, 2007.
I did not know this date.
I have something new.
A gift.
21 April 2010
Poppies... Poppies. Poppies will put them to sleep.
15 April 2010
Mr. Blue Bird on my shoulder....
To keep it soft - she did not tattoo an outline - it's all color / shading. Did it turn out EXACTLY like this picture? No. She improvised and tweaked things here and there. It doesn't help that I am a very moley (sp?) person - so - she had to work around those.
My little blue bird ignored the tattoo all day on Saturday. But Sunday came - and he decided that patting the bird was the thing to do. OUCH!
I'm hoping the healing will be complete in a week or two - and I will post a picture then!
12 April 2010
Someone loves me!!!!!
When you receive the Happy 101 Award, you have to list 10 things that make your day and then list 10 blogs worthy of this award. Post a link to the blogs you nominate, and make sure you let them know that they have been nominated!
(1) Blue Bird's smile. His whole face lights up all the way through his eyes.
(2) Blog up-dates. I think those I stalk would be amazed at how often I check to see if they've posted.
(3) Waking up to Wizard. He has the most incredible heart. He is a wonderful husband and father.
(4) Fully charged I-Pod. Love keeping my music close by
(5) Talking/e-mailing with mom. Yes - she is a part of the "Evil Overlords" - but she knows my heart
(6) Seeing the momma bird on her nest. I know this one will not last - but I love seeing her there in the morning - keeping her eggs safe.
(7) Pictures from sitter. In the afternoon - Bird's sitter usually sends me a picture - so I can see what my little man is up to
(8) Touching base with internet friends. There are a wonderful group of ladies that have helped me through losing Bumble Bee - love keeping up with them
(9) Pictures on my desk. I really don't love my job - so - seeing my boys' pictures during the day - keeps my heart light.
(10) A good book or three. I am in the middle of three books right now - I love being able to sneak a few pages in every day.
Picking 10 bogs? I'll have to work on this and edit later.